What Do You Project Outwards to the World?

Have you ever given it any thought about all the issues that crop up in your life? Where do they all actually come from? Why did that angry man shout at you this morning or that woman let the door slam in your face without provocation?

Consider what it is you are actually Projecting on the world. That’s right, you!

Without knowing it we actually project all kinds of things on each other. Issues or beliefs that, affect the lives of each and every one of us in some way. Just look at religion as one example.

Most people do this without giving it a second thought and the scary thing is they don’t even know that they are doing it.

Most people in the world it would be fair to say have no idea of ‘who or what’ they actually are or why they do the things they do. They blame everything on external forces and never take a look at themselves as being a possibility to their reality. They are blind to their inner self.

There will be many reading this who will proclaim its rubbish what I’ve just said and they know exactly who they are and why things happen.

Do they really? Have they actually spent any time understanding how we are programmed by society, the news, other people, teachers etc…? Do they ever stop to consider where their views were formed and how they think as they do? Is it really free thought that has led them to where they are today?

My view is we don’t really have a clue about the psychology of what influences us in this world we live in. How prejudice is born, racism, arrogance…

Well, stop now for a moment and consider what it is you are now projecting on the world. Maybe you are embroiled in the fears of immigration or perhaps are one of those with your arms open to it. Both are different projections that will be viewed in one way by some and another by others. But what is it they see? Your life will be fearful or peaceful depending on how you see it. Your life! Not someone else unless they see it as you do.

Any negatives we see are actually the negatives in us. A side of us that we fear or dislike and that we are trying to hide from it by blaming others for it. So it gets projected onto others

Basically, what we don’t like in ourselves is what we see in others. Now think about the ramifications of that. A lot of what you think of others is actually your own projection. It has nothing to do with reality it is more to do with what is inside of you as a person.

Now that you know that, you have a better understanding now of human psychology than the average person on the street. So now you can begin to see why things are the way they are in your life.

If you project anger out then anger and angry situations is what you will get back. Try an experiment and go into a shop and snap an angry word to the shop assistant. Even if they are trained to be polite you will see how rubbing them up the wrong way changes everything. They become defensive rather than helpful at best. It’s only human nature when someone attacks you to respond. However, if you can see that it has nothing to do with you the other person’s behavior but them. You are a good person and did nothing wrong so why would they attack you? The anger is theirs. If you get riled and act with anger guess what…It will come back right at you. Instead, brush it off and don’t let it spoil your day. The other person’s anger will go on somewhere else but for you it does not have to be that way.

So, be careful what you project onto the world and see the difference it makes in your life. Project out what it is you would like back and you will see things begin to change.

Rick

Personal Development and Human Potential

How can we define personal development and how does it relate to human potential?

Personal development is not measured by financial, social or external success. Instead it is determined by our efforts to develop our intellectual, physical and spiritual aspects in order to reach our full human potential.

In the process of developing ourselves, we also strive to express our talents and abilities for the enrichment and benefit others.

Unfortunately, in today's instant gratification culture there has been an unhealthy trend  towards 'get rich quick' (substitute thin, beautiful, fit, etc.) schemes gaining ground.

It implies that if you are rich enough, thin enough, or beautiful enough, you will be  happy. Instead of encouraging legitimate personal growth and development, these schemes and false claims work against it.

I'm sure most of us have read, or heard the woeful tales of lottery winners who attained massive fortunes only to be broke soon after their windfalls. We have also seen beautiful, rich, and influential entertainment stars end their own unhappy lives in spite of their outward success.

The Lesson:

There are no "quick fixes" or short cuts to personal development.

It is a deliberate, disciplined process achieved by reflection, introspection and self-awareness.

 

Personal Development and The Human Potential Movement

 

The emphasis on personal development began to rise in the 1960's with the Human Potential Movement that had its roots in existentialism and humanistic psychology.

Its purpose was to promote the idea that humans can experience an exceptional quality of life filled with happiness, creativity and fulfillment when they strive to reach their potential.

Abraham Maslow, a humanistic psychologist, put forth the idea that self-actualization (the fulfillment of self through reaching one's potential) is the highest expression of a human's life.

In his research Maslow found that self-actualized people were those who are creative and spontaneous, possess a good sense of humor and are able to tolerate uncertainty. They have an appreciation for what life has to offer, a deep concern for others and are able to enjoy close, meaningful, personal relationships.

He advocated a list of behaviors that he felt lead to self-actualization.

 

These behaviors include: Maintain the curiosity, attention and wonder you had as a child. Be open-minded and try new things. Be honest and be willing to risk unpopularity if you disagree with others. Use your intelligence and work hard at whatever you do. Find out who you are, what you want and what's important to you. Don't be afraid to open yourself up to new experiences. Take responsibility for your life and your actions.

 

Humanistic psychology emphasizes the importance of attending to and developing the "whole" person or those aspects of ourselves that make us human - the physical, the emotional, the intellectual and the spiritual.

To be your "true self" means to be and take responsibility for it on all of these levels.

Personal development is therefore, the process of striving to be the best that you can be in order to reach and realize your full potential. It is a journey of self-discovery, self-improvement and self-realization.

   

http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/humanpotential.html