10 Tips To Boost Your Confidence

 

One of the biggest things I struggle with as a young girl was being confident. Luckily, I had strong women figures in my life that truly helped me love who I am.  Confidence plays a big role in living your happiest life here at 10 tips to boost your confidence and  elevate your self worth.

Lead your life with your heart.

 Stand tall and you’ll immediately feel a boost of confidence. You may not be able to see it when you look in the mirror, but your heart is working hard for you day in a day out. It deserves to lead.

2.Smile.

It’s contagious. Be happy about the blessings in your life! You’ll make someone’s day. Plus, smiling just makes you more beautiful!

3.Act like you’re on a mission.

Whatever you’re doing act like you know exactly where you are headed.

4.Step outside of your comfort zone, try something new and overcome a fear. Perhaps it’s signing up for a race, talking to someone new, or going to the front of yoga class! The more you do this, the more you’ll feel like you can take on the world!

5.Be bold.

Wear red lipstick, bold colors and never be afraid to go after what you want!

6.Break a sweat.

Working out will make you feel confident and amazing! It increases your endorphins to help you feel happy, reduces stress and tones your muscles.

7.Find the beauty in others.

Compliment people, even if it’s someone you don’t know. And send love.

8.Stop the negative talk.

Whether it’s in your head or out loud, all negative talk needs to go. Each time you catch yourself saying something unkind about yourself or anyone else, just correct it. We promise this will have a huge impact on how you feel each day. If a girlfriend says something negative about herself, make her correct it too… Then compliment her!

9.Dress to the nines.

Take a little extra time and take care of yourself by dressing your best wherever you go—even if it’s the gym. When you feel good, you’ll go the extra mile—whether it’s at work, at home, at the gym or on a date!

10.Reward yourself.

You deserve it. Do things that make you smile and feel pampered often. Take a bubble bath, treat yourself to new clothes, manicures or a 20 minute break with your favorite magazine. It’s the little things that make a difference

 

 

 

An Antidote to Your Fears

Life’s lessons come in many forms and can be quite significant. You cannot rid yourself of fear and learn something unless you are first willing to take some action and do something. Fear is the most debilitating self-defeating thing we can give ourselves. If we live our lives from a position of weakness we avoid fear like the plague and will do anything to avoid the pain that we perceive will come if we confront our fears.

Dr. Wayne W Dyer says we should educate ourselves with the following maxim:-

I hear: I forget

I see: I Remember

I Do: I Understand

You will never really understand what it is to lose your fears if you are never willing to risk anything and confront it head on. You can talk yourself until you are blue in the face, sulk and brood until your skin itches from head to foot or your teeth fall out. You can listen to those who tell you there is nothing to fear but until you take that first step and do something, risk something nothing will change.

No one teaches you about fear and no one can teach you not to be afraid. It is a part of life we just cannot avoid. It is there no matter what we do and never goes away. Your fears are as unique to you as they are to the next person and only you can confront them nobody else is going to solve that for you.

Cast your mind back to when you were a kid, perhaps at the beach. Your parents likely said don’t go in the water it’s dangerous. Only go in when you can swim. What sort of advice is that really in the logic of learning in life? It’s like telling a baby don’t stand up until you can walk. A bit catch 22 really. I remember I put a spoon in the electric fire as a baby. My parents must have been beside themselves. I learned a lesson then but was lucky to be alive I guess. Doing things in life though have lessons and if you stop doing anything you will only see life from someone else’s perspective not yours and learn nothing. Make sure you don’t immobilize yourself with fear because of other people’s expectations for you. Don’t make yourself a victim and blame everyone and everything around you for things that have past, they cannot be changed and that is no excuse for not taking action with something today.

All your childhood experiences are a result of your parents doing the best they could with the knowledge they had. That should not stop you now experimenting and changing yourself today with what you know now. You will stumble, fall and fail along the way but this learning curve will increase your chances of success and wisdom. If you refuse to risk anything and try then you are effectively saying I refuse to know and that will make you weak and a life victim all over again cementing what you used to think as fact. Action is a necessary step we need to take. Once you conquer your fear strangely another fear appears different from the last but you can conquer that too.

Unless you are willing to test yourself and take that risk you will never know life from a point of strength. All tests will not end in success some will be failures but that is part of the learning. When you are willing to attempt something that is worthwhile to you (and not anybody else) you will understand that experience is the key to unlocking your potential and beating the fear.

Benjamin Disraeli an English statesman years ago once said ‘Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of Action’

First we must think before taking action and when we do something taking action only then will we know and have learned something. Do that and you challenge the fear that holds you back and keeps you a victim operating from a position of weakness in your life.

Grab hold of life and hold on tight! Live it! In the words of Sir Richard Branson ‘Screw it, let’s do it’

 

 

Life is a journey with twists and turns, ups and downs. Are you ready for it?

John Frederick