I’ve encountered two types
of people in this world: those who choose to be happy and those who choose to
be unhappy.
The wisest, strongest and
most loving people you will ever meet are those who feel the pain of failure,
rejection, defeat and heartbreak, but somehow find the way out from the depths
of despair.
These kinds of people have
a sense of appreciation, sensitivity and empathy for others and an overall
understanding of life. They are happy.
Unhappiness lies in the
breach between what we think we need and what we currently have. The greater
part of our happiness or unhappiness depends on our outlook toward challenges
that come our way. We all have one life to live and it’s a personal
choice how we choose to live it.
These are my
10 confessions regarding my happiness choice:
1. I
have blamed people for my unhappiness.
When things
went downhill, I always used to blame others for how I felt. I blamed
them for hurting me or leaving me or simply not making enough of an effort.
The reality is, I am in
control of my own feelings; I choose to feel the way I do. Once I realized
this, I started to take responsibility for my emotions, beginning with my
confessions and ending with my lifelong lessons.
2. I
have failed countless times.
I can’t even remember how
many times I have failed. I kept trying and trying, and eventually, it got to
the point that I felt defeated.
The thing about life is
that nothing comes easily. We must work hours, days, years to get to where we
want to be.
I’ve learned that it’s
better to try and fail than not try at all. One day, all your hard work and
efforts will be worth it.
3. I
have let someone I love go.
It hurts to know you loved
someone so much, you had to let him or her go. Whether the
person broke your heart or vice versa, you simply knew it wasn’t healthy
to have this person in your life any longer.
But, isn’t that what love
is all about? You can’t force someone you love to stay with you if he or
she doesn’t want to do so.
Just because someone is
not physically in your life doesn’t mean he or she isn’t on your mind or in
your heart. Letting go of someone is NOT the end of life. Rather, it is
the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves but never without
a lesson.
4. I
have judged people.
We all follow different
moral codes, so when we do encounter someone who does not fit our individual
standards and beliefs, we pass judgments without knowing the whole story.
Accepting a person is a
choice, and I’ve come to realize that knowing the whole story makes me
happy.
5. I
have felt alone and miserable.
It’s easy to look around
and notice people around you thriving. But, let’s dig a little deeper.
Life is not perfect and the people who live it aren’t, either.
We all struggle in our own
ways. Just like life, these feelings are temporary, and it’s up to you to
change your outlook.
Someday, all the pieces
will come together; good things will come your way, even if things
don’t turn out how you want. You’ll look back someday, smile and ask
yourself, “How the hell did I get through this?”
6. I
have lived in the past.
Have you ever replayed the
past over and over again? It’s like you’ve hit an iceberg and are just
stuck.
You keep trying to compare
your past to your present, but the thing is, while it’s great to look back, the
key is the present. Living in the moment but knowing life is a mystery is
what makes life… life.
The secret to happiness is
allowing things to unfold on their own. Let go of your past and set yourself
free. Stop comparing everything and everyone to your past. Keep an open mind
and heart to new people, relationships and experiences.
7. I
have been insecure and afraid of losing something/someone.
I’ve spent time worrying
about losing people, and due to my own insecurities and fears, I had pushed
people away. Free yourself of all fears. Don’t be afraid to lose something or
someone because if you try to stick to any person, thought, or object, you are
more likely to lose it.
I’ve learned that the very
moment you let go of fear, you will attain freedom and confidence.
8.
People I truly love have hurt me, and I have hurt people I truly love.
We are bound to make
mistakes and hurt the people we love. After all, we are human. I’ve learned
that the pain is a part of growing stronger and wiser. Perfection does not
exist and when we realize that, we will start to forgive ourselves.
Most importantly,
forgiveness is also the simple awareness that there is actually nothing that
requires forgiving. We are perfectly imperfect humans who hurt, love, grow
and learn.
9. I
have had expectations of certain people.
As a result of this,
I have also been disappointed. As human beings, we are competitive and selfish.
We are all in it for ourselves, which is why the only person from whom you
should expect things is yourself.
I’ve learned to create
expectations regarding how I choose to live my life. You might not always
get what you want, but you will get what you expect.
10. I
have wanted to die.
I recall times when I have
broken down, and it feels like everything bad happening all at once. I have
felt so low, to the point that I wondered whether life was worth living.
This is my last confession and the most important lesson I want to pass on.
You are blessed with this
unpredictable life and it is up to you how you choose to live it. Life can be
horrid or beautiful. It’s bold or scary. It’s sad or happy. It’s what YOU make
of it.
The sign of a happy person
is a choice he or she chooses to make despite the struggles he or
she faces. I choose to be happy. What do you choose?
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