Saturday 20 December 2014

7 Ways To Transform Your Goals Into Rock-Solid Systems


 
 
You’ve been there.

Maybe you have unfinished novels scattered across your hard drive, or haven’t picked up your guitar in weeks, or have stopped practicing that new language you so desperately wanted to learn.

Goals are easy to conceptualize. It’s easy to convince yourself that this time it’s different.

But it still doesn’t work.

Why is it so hard to actually achieve the goals we set for ourselves? Why do so many of us fail?

Here’s a hint—it’s not about your level of commitment. That’s irrelevant.

When we set goals, we too often plunge head first into the deep end with our eyes on one thing only — the achievement itself.

This, my friend, is why you fail.

You’re approaching your goals the wrong way. Not only that, you’re choosing the wrong kinds of goals to begin with.

Here are 7 ways to transform your goals into rock solid systems.

 

1. Adopt a systems mindset

Focusing only on the achievement of your goal doesn’t give you the best chance of success.

Scott Adams, in his book How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big, said that achievement-oriented people “exist in a state of continuous presuccess failure at best, and permanent failure at worst if things never work out.” What he means is that end-state thinking creates a division between progress and achievement.

In other words, if you aren’t winning, you’re failing.

A system is defined as “an organized, purposeful structure that consists of interrelated and interdependent elements.” A systems mindset shifts your thinking away from the end-state and lets you focus on your progress.

To skyrocket your chances of success, you have to be systems-oriented. And you must start with the right kinds of goals.

 

2. Get big with your goals! Forget being S.M.A.R.T.

Successful companies set long-term strategic goals, called BHAGs (Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals). Consider these classic examples:

• “Crush Adidas.” (Nike, 1960’s)

• “Every book, ever printed, in any language, all available in less than 60 seconds.” (Amazon)

• “I believe that this nation should commit itself to achieving the goal, before this decade is out, of landing a man on the moon and returning him safely to the earth.” (JFK, 1961)

BHAGs are clear, compelling, represent a vision, and inspire tremendous effort.

My favorite example of a personal BHAG comes from Arnold Schwarzenegger before he was famous. When asked what he was going to do after his bodybuilding career was over, he said, “I’m going to be the number-one box office star in Hollywood.” How’s that for big?

S.M.A.R.T. goals (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Reasonable, and Time-bound) don’t inspire us the way BHAGs do. They are limiting and are often boring.

We need to allow more room in our lives for those BHAGs that excite us, that stimulate our success triggers and enable us to think more creatively about our futures.

When setting your goals, go big. Think BHAG.

 

3. Get strategic, and layer in your tactics

Strategy gives us the how behind an idea. It propels us forward and guides us where we need to go.

Strategic goals help us achieve our BHAGs because they drive everything we do.

Consider the BHAG, “To live a life of abundance, free of financial burden.” What could be one strategic goal that aligns with this BHAG? How about “make an extra $1000 a month?” Setting this strategic objective could help you achieve your vision of living abundantly.

Tactics, then, comprise the what behind our strategy. Tactics are the specific actions we take based on our strategic objectives.

In the example above, you could brainstorm specific actions to make an extra $1,000 a month — work overtime three days a week, sell one freelance article a week, or shop garage sales on weekends and sell items on eBay for a profit.

The tactics you implement support your strategic goals, which in turn align with and push you toward your BHAGs.

Break these tactics down even further into actionable components that can become habits. For your tactic of selling an article a week, start with a simple action to “write 200 words every day.” Pretty soon, this becomes a habit, and you’ve built a set of behaviors that link your habits to your tactics, your tactics to your strategy, and your strategy to your BHAG.

You’ve taken the initial steps to create a rock-solid system!

But we’re not done yet.

 

4. Set milestones and celebrate them

Rock-solid systems must contain benchmarks to gauge their effectiveness. How else will you know if your systems are working?

These could be time-bound, such as 30 days in, 90 days in, etc. Or they could be results driven, with intervals set at certain waypoints (5 pounds lost, 10 pounds lost, $100 extra per month, etc.).

How you set your milestones is far less important than the fact that you set them to begin with. We must be able to measure ourselves against the progress we expect to achieve.

And when you reach a milestone, the first thing you should do is celebrate! Don’t let small wins pass you by.

Every gain, no matter how incremental, is movement in the right direction. I can’t emphasize this point enough. If you don’t make the effort to cheer for yourself, then I would question whether or not you’ve set the right goal or have a clear vision.

 

5. Assess your progress and don’t be afraid to pivot.

If your system isn’t working, whether you scrap it or tweak it is up to you. If the probability of reaching your next milestone is low, you might need to make some significant adjustments.

Perfectly fine.

One of the beautiful things about systems is that they’re flexible. If something isn’t working, try a different approach.

Entrepreneurs do this quite well. It’s commonplace to hear of serial entrepreneurs who failed miserably time and again until they implemented the right system.

This is another reason why I love BHAGs. They help me keep my eye on the prize and worry less about the small stuff.

 

6. Get an accountability partner (or team) and solicit feedback.

One pair of hands alone can’t build rock-solid systems. Sometimes we just need someone to push us.

If you work alone, you know how easy it is to anchor yourself on one concept or idea.

We create more value when we’re able to share our thoughts and ideas with others.

An accountability partner or team can be like your own personal board of directors. They have your best interests at heart, and if you have a great partner, they won’t hesitate to tell you when something is broken.

So outline your system for a trusted friend or mentor and ask, “What do you think?” And check in with them on a regular basis.

I guarantee you’ll get better results.

 

7. Focus on the journey

With systems-oriented thinking, you will not have immediate gratification. And that’s okay. Working towards BHAGs are about pushing yourself, immersing yourself in your values and working toward your envisioned future.

Systems force you to focus on your journey and help you build habits that align with your goals. And once you’ve built those systems, you will never worry about achieving your goal—because you will!

The system won’t allow you to fail.

You now have a framework for building rock-solid systems, but the rest is up to you. It isn’t enough to just read these steps, nod your head in agreement and move onto another topic.

It’s true – setting goals and implementing rock-solid systems is a lot of work. But the payoffs are worth ten times that effort.

Achieving your goals feels great. Building systems that take you beyond your goals feels even better.

Rock-solid systems are life changing. If you’re willing to put in the hours, you’ll become a goal-getting machine.

When will you start?

 

What techniques have you found effective in helping you hit your big goals? Share them in the comments field below.

 
 

Thursday 18 December 2014

10 Great Privileges We Forget to Be Thankful For




Even in times of uncertainty – even when life seems far from perfect – it’s always important to keep things in perspective.

Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.
― Henry David Thoreau

1.     You are alive.

2.     You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.

3.     You didn’t go to sleep outside.

4.     You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning.

5.     You haven’t spent a minute in fear for your life.

6.     You know someone who loves you.

7.     You have access to clean drinking water.

8.     You have access to medical care.

9.     You have access to the Internet.

10.  You can read.

Some might say you are incredibly wealthy and privileged, so remember to be thankful for all the things you do have.

Your turn…

What would you add to the list?

What do you sometimes forget to be thankful for?

Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts.

 

Sunday 14 December 2014

Constructive Criticism: How to Receive It and Still Maintain Your Self Esteem


 
 
Did you know that your ability to handle criticism could impact on your work performance? People who take criticism personally report the least job satisfaction and are likelier to quit their projects or their job altogether.

At the same time, a person’s ability to positively receive criticism is closely linked with their level of self-esteem. The tiniest shrapnel of disapproval will further deflate a low self-esteem.

Admittedly, listening to someone point out a mistake or a shortcoming is never easy for anyone. In fact, even if you know the criticism is valid, your first reaction would likely be defensiveness.

But, there are inherent benefits latent within that critical appraisal you receive from your boss, that reproach from a colleague or a complaint about your services from a customer.

Here are some steps to deal with criticism while keeping yourself esteem intact:

Is it worth fighting for?

To avoid losing sleep over each incident of disapproval, it is wise to assess the nature of criticism you receive and from whom.

Some people may criticize you for no valid reason in an effort to anger you or undermine your efforts.

The simplest way to deal with such criticism is to not pay attention to it; after all, if it is not beneficial to you, there is no need to invest so much effort in it. Undoubtedly, you would have to work hard to build your self-esteem to be able to understand negative or unwarranted criticism for what it is.

Don’t identify your self-worth with the subject of criticism

A major obstacle to dealing with criticism is the personalization of disapproval. Most people do it—when someone points out to a shortcoming or something that needs improvement, the first instinct is to take it personal, or make it about your self-efficacy.

Constructive criticism, for example from a boss, a mentor, a close advisor or a customer is often not meant to be an attack on the person. Rather, it is them telling you that you need to improve on certain things.

Therefore, just because a customer criticizes your product does not mean that your entire business model has failed or that you are incapable of operating a business. Instead of taking customer criticism as an attack on your aptitude, take it as an opportunity to start a discourse about how you can help them and see whether the product can be improved.

Looking for the grains of truth

Unless you determine that someone is criticizing you out of ill intention, a large percentage of the criticism you receive will have some sort of truth, if you were to be honest with yourself.

If you are in a workplace situation, listening objectively to your boss or colleagues’ criticism can help you unveil something about yourself or your work that needs improvement.

So, instead of becoming defensive, keenly go through important points that need to be improved, come to an agreement or set up an action plan and get down to implementing the required changes.

This process works in all sorts of situations from dealing with customers to alleviating relationship conflicts.

Looking for the truth in what the other person is saying will go a long way in helping you not to make the same mistakes again. It also creates peaceful interactions in the workplace, business and personal life.

Accepting your limitations

Perfectionists and high-achievers have a hard time accepting the slightest criticism. It’s not that they are narcissistic; it’s just that they have extremely high benchmarks for achievement

 

These personality types invariably expect approval due to the seemingly great deal of input they expend into their work. As such, they can blow up even in the face of constructive criticism.

Knowing and accepting your limitations is extremely valuable in fending off the sting that comes with any type of disapproval. If you are not too great at marketing, accept that and either allow someone else to do it or go on with it but anticipate potential criticism.

Constructive Critisism

The best way to minimize criticism is not to avoid challenges altogether. A better way is to do what you are good at so well that you leave no space for criticism. Even then, when you are asked to improve, taking the time to listen objectively and to find the traces of truth can help to diffuse conflict in business, at the workplace or in your personal relationships.

 
http://www.andrewspenceonline.com/constructive-criticism-how-to-receive-it-and-still-maintain-your-self-esteem/

Find your Life Purpose and Passion




 
 
 
I believe that everyone is born with a unique set of skills and a unique purpose and you can live a truly fulfilled life, only once you make the decision to live according to your purpose and passion and do things around your unique skills and things that you love doing.

Everyone was born with a unique purpose of how they will serve the planet through their lifetime.

Yet many people go through life without a purpose, doing something that they don’t love, living a life designed by others, almost on autopilot. They feel unfulfilled and they don’t know how to change it.

What is your true purpose?

Our true purpose is essentially to be happy and to do things that make us happy. An individual, who is happy, is one living on purpose. And an individual living on purpose, cannot be anything else than happy. So the first thing you can start doing to discover your purpose is to think what makes you happy and choose to do only things that make you happy. The happy state of being is a very important place to be in, to manifest whatever you want into your life.

Why you should find your Purpose and Passion

People who are most successful and productive are the ones who have recognized their purpose and live their life according to their purpose, following their true calling and passion. Read the autobiography of any successful person you admire and you will find out that there was an underlying life purpose to everything they did. Mahatma Gandi inspired so many people because he was following his purpose, his calling of advocating nonviolence and truth and being the change that he wanted to see in the world.

Knowing your Purpose, will enable you to design your life around your true passion and unique abilities and live your full potential. All of your talents and unique abilities are based on what your purpose is.

When you live on purpose, people respond to you differently because they see a person with passion for what they do. You feel that you are not wasting any moment of your life because you are living life doing things that feel right for you. And you become more successful and productive because you focus on your unique skills, what you do best and you don’t waste your time on activities that don’t represent you.

And actually in an ideal world, everyone would be living their purpose. Businesses would be more successful because they wouldn’t be employing people to work in positions that didn’t inspire them. Business owners would be more successful because they would realize that there is no point in trying to do things they are not inspired by or something that they don’t possess a unique skill around. And people would be more successful and happy because they would focus on doing only things they are good at and they love doing.

How do you find your Purpose and Passion?

Deep within you, in your subconscious mind, or even consciously, you know what your purpose is as it’s something you have been doing naturally all your life, it’s something you are drawn to. All you need to do is ask yourself a few questions and give honest answers, to help bring it out and uncover it.

Write down the answers to the following questions and look for a common theme, so that you can form a sentence, a statement that represents your life purpose, what you represent and how you serve the world.


10 Questions to Uncover your Life Purpose and Passion:


1) If you could design your ideal life, what would it look like? How would you be spending your time and what would you be doing for a living?

2) When are you the Happiest?

3) What activities make you excited to get up in the morning?

4) What are you doing when you feel most Creative and Alive?

5) How do you find yourself spending your time?What do you naturally enjoy doing for hours without getting bored?

6) What things and items do you surround yourself by? For example, when you are at a bookstore or searching online for books, what kind of book subjects and categories are you naturally drawn to?

7) What are the things in life that you are most Passionate about, you get excited about very easily?

8) What things do other people come and ask you to help them with?

9) What talents and attributes do you regularly get complements on by others?

10) What areas or activities do you Excel at in life? What are your Strengths, the areas that you perform really well at?

 Pavalina Papalouka


http://pavlinapapalouka.com/personal-developmentmindset/success-alchemy-secret-9-find-your-life-purpose-and-passion

Thursday 11 December 2014

Are You (Subconsciously) Afraid of Success?


Illustration: Oscar Ramos Orozco

 


Have you ever found yourself on the verge of a big success, and noticed things starting to go wrong? It begins with a feeling of agitation. The tiniest details irritate you. Reliable people start making alarming mistakes.“What’s up with them? Can’t they see how important this is? Why are they being so careless?”

 

It becomes hard to concentrate. You find yourself procrastinating over things you know will lead to success. You say something stupid in an important meeting.

“What’s wrong with me today?”

You get into arguments with your partner and friends, who wonder why you’re being so “touchy.”

All of these are classic symptoms of fear of success – a condition that is all the more dangerous because it’s so unexpected. You want to be successful, right? You’ve sweated blood to get to this point, so why would you sabotage yourself?

But in our success-oriented culture, we don’t give much thought to the fact that success can be downright scary. We’re used to seeing fear as the enemy, so we do our best to ignore it and soldier on. Which means the fear remains subconscious, expressing itself in the kind of “stupid” behaviors above.

So what can you do about it?

Sometimes all you need to do is “out” the fear by admitting to yourself that you are, in fact, afraid. Paradoxically, it can have the effect of helping you relax.

“OK, I’m nervous, which is pretty normal considering what’s at stake.”

(Deep breath)

“Right, what’s next?”

And sometime it helps to focus on exactly what you’re afraid of, and find a way to deal with the threat. Here are three classic versions of fear of success, and what to do about them.

1. Fear of Not Coping With Success

As Hugh MacLeod points out, success is more complex than failure. On some level, it’s more comfortable to stay in a familiar situation, even if it doesn’t feel great on the surface. But achieving success (however you define it) means you are entering uncharted territory. You are putting yourself out there to be scrutinized and criticized, and exposing yourself to new pressures and demands.

It’s only human to wonder whether you’ll be up to the challenge. A small anxious part of you would rather not take the risk.

What to do about it:

Although the idea of success can be scary, the reality is generally easier to cope with than what you had before. If you’ve been resourceful enough to keep yourself going during the tough times, you’ll probably be able to do the same with the good times. Yes, you’ll have to make changes and learn new things, but you’re creative and adaptive enough to do that.

If you experience doubts, remind yourself of all the extra resources success will bring you:

·       A boost to your confidence

·       A bigger, more powerful network

·       A healthier bank balance

·       A growing reputation that opens new doors

2. Fear of Selling Out

Creatives have a complicated relationship with success. On the one hand, you wouldn’t be reading 99U if you weren’t ambitious to succeed; on the other, you don’t want success at all costs – especially the loss of your artistic integrity.

Whatever choices you make, if you achieve any kind of public success, it’s a sad fact that someone, somewhere will be thinking (and even saying) nasty things about you – including accusations of “selling out.”

What to do about it:

Firstly, accept that you’ll never please everyone. Backbiting is part of the price of success.

Secondly, make sure you are comfortable with your choices. Make a list of all the things you would consider “selling out,” and which you’re not prepared to do. Then keep the list handy. As long as you don’t do the things on that list, you can look yourself in the mirror. Whatever anyone else says about you.

3. Fear of Becoming Someone Else

Because we habitually put successful people on pedestals, the idea of becoming “one of them” can feel daunting. You start to worry that you’ll turn into someone else, a person your friends and family won’t recognize—and won’t like.

This fear has some foundation in reality. After all, if you were satisfied with the person you are now, why would you want to change? But it’s also founded on a false premise: that change is about leaving your old self behind and replacing it with a completely new one. Change is more complex than that. You are definitely more complex than that.

What to do about it:

Instead of thinking about change in terms of subtraction (losing your old self) think of it in terms of addition. You are about to discover and develop new facets to your personality — adding to who you are and what you bring to the world.

Getting used to your new role will feel tingly and exciting. And you can still be the person you’ve always been to family and friends. Spending time with them will feel like slipping on your old comfy jeans after spending time in your trendy new clothes. More selves = more choices and a richer life.


Over to you

Have you ever suffered from fear of success?

 

Any tips for dealing with it?